THE COMMON ROOT CAUSE OF FEAR OF BEING ALONE AND HOW TO CONQUER IT.
Do you fear being alone? Well, if you do, you are not alone. This is one of the most common fears, especially in romantic relationships. Humans are an incredibly social species that doesn't just desire social connections; we need them for physical and mental health.
It's very common today in our society to feel lonely...and yet, in our amazing form of social media, we are the most lonely we have been in any era. We tend to worry about ending up alone; like any fear, there is a root cause, and if we take action, we can actually change it.
CAUSES IN FEARING BEING ALONE
There are three common issues: our past, self-esteem, and social conditioning.
Suppose we have suffered a past abandonment issue with someone we loved and craved as a child (a significant cause of most people's fear of abandonment). In that case, we may not even realise that we associate being alone with being abandoned and unloved.
Many of us suffer from a lack of self-love. We haven't been taught to focus on happiness and love ourselves. If we can trace back our limiting beliefs that we may have created as children or teenagers. Perhaps you didn't feel comfortable being alone and didn't want to spend time with just yourselves because, deep down, you felt you needed constant stimulation to avoid the battle of your thoughts and feelings resurfacing...
Social conditioning about ending up alone is widespread among many of us in our society. Most of us have been raised to believe the idea of a soulmates is someone who will complete our lives and make us feel whole.
In reality, this is unhealthy and can cause co-dependency issues; therefore, a healthy aspect is to be concerned about becoming the best version of oneself. We don't need anyone to complete us, and if we do find a soulmate, that soulmate complements our already complete life.
HOW DOES OUR FEAR OF BEING ALONE INFLUENCE OUR RELATIONSHIPS
When we worry about ending up alone, we are working on the law of attraction, and whatever we focus on, we get. So, we are consumed with fear of being alone. In that case, this can cause negative energy that spills into our relationships, where we throw ourselves into our relationship, even if it's unhealthy. When we do that, we put pressure on our partners and bring this harmful energy into the relationship, and often this will not end well. Yet, suppose we can overcome our fear of being alone forever. In that case, we can develop into a full version of ourselves where we bring passion, purpose and personality into the relationship instead of fear, which will also increase our attractiveness to others.
(Law of attraction - In action).
HOW TO OVERCOME THE FEAR OF ENDING UP ALONE
BY FOCUSING ON OURSELF - We can't control if we will meet the one. Therefore, stop spending countless hours fretting about whether you will end up alone and concentrate on what you can control in your life instead..and that is with yourself.
UNDERSTANDING OUR FEAR SETS US FREE - When we live in fear of ending up alone forever, we can work on this and find ways to tackle it, but first, we must look within. Monophobia is often known as our limiting belief; it's the story we keep telling ourselves about who we are. Many of us fear being alone forever, believing that we are not complete and need someone to complete us, and if we don't have a partner, we are alone and unhappy. We are putting it out there that deep down, we are saying we are not worthy of love or will never be happy if we don't secure a partner.
QUESTIONS YOUR BELIEFS - We all have a belief system in our lives - how we should act and think our lives should look, and if we don't achieve these milestones, it can create a source of pain. What if our limiting belief is wrong? This is where we can step back and look at our life and ourselves and look at what you do want in your life and what you want out of life for yourself.
SATISFY YOUR HUMAN NEEDS.
When we fear being alone, we often reflect on our six human needs to feel we are leading fulfilling lives.
LEARN TO LET GO - OF THE PAST.
Fearing being alone stems from our past experiences, whether from being abandoned as a child, having difficult breakups or unfulfilling relationships. To overcome this fear, stop living in your past. Your past isn't your future unless you want to live there. If we can focus on the present and be grateful for what we have, we will notice a significant shift in our mindset.
GROW YOUR SOCIAL CIRCLE.
If we can learn to surround ourselves with quality people to enhance our lives. This way is excellent to get what we want out of life, whether it's getting a successful business running or a healthy relationship. Focusing on friendships and mentorships creates a social support system to help stop worrying about being alone forever.
RAISE YOUR STANDARDS
When we fear being alone forever, this can be a contradiction in itself cause if we accept it is okay to settle for less in a romantic relationship, to do anything to avoid the pain, we will do what we can to seek pleasure, even if it's unhealthy for us and if being alone causes you fear and anxiety, by settling for less this will only avoid the pain by seeking out the uncertainty, You deserve better than that....learn to raise your standards so you are not settling for less.
MIRROR WORK
Learning to do mirror work can help us get to know ourselves so that when we face life challenges, we can meet them head-on with courage as an aligned, self-aware person. The benefits of mirror work are that You will find a sense of self-confidence that comes over you, an inner peace you can trust in your life and yourself. You will also notice having those more challenging conversations gets easier because you no longer avoid yourself and your inner power.